Turning 30: A Love Letter to the Next Chapter & The Child in Me

I never thought I’d be one to get sentimental about turning 30. But here I am, standing at the threshold of a new decade, reflecting on the years that shaped me to this point and envisioning what lies ahead.

In my early twenties, life was a big party. 30 seemed distant—like an age where I’d have everything figured out. I'd actually be grown up. Old. The reality? I’m still learning, still growing, and still discovering new layers of myself. I've yet to achieve some of the loftier goals, and found other accomplishments that weren't even on the list (buying multiple homes, having a baby). And that’s the beauty of life. All in God's timing. It's about the journey not the destination.

The Lessons That Led Me Here

Time is Precious: Try lots and dig in on what really interests you

In my twenties, I said yes to everything. The parties, the late nights, the relationships I knew weren’t meant to last. And while I have no regrets, I now understand the value of time and energy. Nobody can live your life for you, and vice versa, you cannot live other peoples lives. I think some of the people pleasing, co-dependent tendencies of my family rubbed off on me and I'm consciously shedding those now. You really do become who you surround yourself with. I choose where I invest it more intentionally now—whether it’s in my passions, my well-being, or the people who truly matter. I know what I don't want in my life, so I no longer put my energy in those directions. Sometimes, it's easier to first define what you don't want in life to really get to what you do want. Failure is just another step forward. I have great appreciation for failed attempts to this point in my life. They've brough much insight and changed my direction to brighter directions, more in line with my path. I am exactly where I need to be.

Joy is Found in the Little Things, Take Nothing for Granted

The grand adventures were amazing, and I have a list of more to come, but some of the most cherished moments are the quiet mornings with coffee, the handwritten notes, the deep belly laughs with friends. When you get to three decades, more likely than not, you'll know at least one close person who died, or know someone who lost a loved one. Realistically, not all your peers will have made it to 30. Take that in. There is so much power in pausing and being in present. What's it all for? Where are you rushing to? Why do you do what you do? Expressing gratitude continuously and finding awe in any moment has been huge for my mental health and personal growth. While out on a walk, I look up at a blossoming tree and study the tiny flower, there is beauty in the colour, the shape, the incredible little life of the bud. Having a child brings me full circle; I want to be the best teacher and influence I can be on this little life, exploring the world with fresh eyes.

Looking Ahead

Turning 30 isn’t about having it all figured out. It’s about stepping into a version of myself that is more grounded, more self-assured, and more open to the magic of the unknown. I do feel like I'm not a kid anymore (this is not a dress rehearsal!) and having a kid has solidified that feeling. Be genuine, be true to me, be kind to my inner child. Cheers to the next decade—may it be filled with purpose, adventure, and an abundance of joy. Keep learning, keep trying new things, keep yourself fit. xx Zoë